Trump was acting like an abuser at the debate last night. He definitely triggered me.
I don't usually make too big of a deal about the crap that I've dealt with in my life. But I have gone through some crap. And last night, while watching the debate, I felt ... strange at times. I felt upset, occasionally confused, and very, very anxious.
It took me a moment to realize that watching Donald Trump speak was, quite literally, triggering the emotional reactions from prior incidents in my life. That the things he was saying - the way he was saying them - was what was triggering my anxiety.
Again, in the greater scheme of things, I've not really been through a lot. I know quite a few people who are, right now, dealing with situations far worse than anything I dealt with.
So I wrote this on social media:
I have dealt with far less than many people I know. And Trump is literally triggering me. I am so, so, sorry, all women everywhere. #debate— Steven Saus (@uriel1998) October 10, 2016
I realize that me simply saying this probably isn't enough for those who haven't experienced this kind of thing. So below, I present several representative comments (that I also retweeted) that really highlight why Donald Trump's behavior at the debate was so upsetting.
Sometimes the comments are dead serious. Sometimes there's a comedic element to them.
Make no mistake, though. These behaviors are patterns with him and with far too many other people. They are not acceptable. They are not okay.
We will not be silent. We are your bad conscience.
Note to my male friends who might not realize: Trump's standing behind her is a bullying tactic. Abusive men do this to us all the time.— Melissa Ryan (@MelissaRyan) October 10, 2016
Do we think the reason Donald insists on running against Bill's record is because he can't believe he has to run against Hillary, a woman?— shonda rhimes (@shondarhimes) October 10, 2016
He talks in circles and this is exactly what a manipulation tactic looks like to confuse you— Christina (@notNksanymore) October 10, 2016
Protip: @realDonaldTrump if you don't want to look like a creep to women don't literally creep up behind them while they're talking. #debate— W. Kamau Bell (@wkamaubell) October 10, 2016
Abuser checklist:— spookaye troll (@ohkayewhatever) October 10, 2016
✓ Physically intimidates through proximity
✓ Insisting you're lying/wrong (gaslighting)
✓ Threatening #debate
Everything the demagogue says about HRC applies to him. He has tremendous hate in HIS heart. And he's shown it in word and deed. #Debate— yvette nicole brown (@YNB) October 10, 2016
The constant heckling & interruption on this #debate stage = flashbacks to every woman's worst business meeting ever. I need a bathroom cry— Mandy Jenkins (@mjenkins) October 10, 2016
Trump is a stellar reminder that rapists are the ones who think all men are rapists. "Locker room talk." Rapists think they're normal.— Annalee (@leeflower) October 10, 2016
The story of this debate is #TrumpStalking. Period. Anyone who understands predation has their hair on end watching this #debate.— Peter Daou (@peterdaou) October 10, 2016
Anyone who thinks we don't need feminism: re-watch this #debate where a well-educated woman battles a man who can't use complete sentences.— Erin La Rosa (@SideOfGinger) October 10, 2016
#BREAKING USA TODAY investigation: Trump and his companies are accused of mistreating women in at least 20 lawsuits https://t.co/QMo8p8Hrz8— USA TODAY (@USATODAY) October 10, 2016