A brief note on lifehacking
(The following applies for me as well.)
Congratulations! You have broken a bad habit, or created a good one! You reached a goal, made your life more efficient, and will not only live longer, but be a better lover too.
Now stop telling me how you did it.
I might ask. I might even ask you to coach or encourage or provide feedback.
But otherwise, keep your judgmental comments to yourself. Here's two I heard a lot:
"You know, you'll live longer if you lose weight."
"You know, smoking is bad for you."
I'm glad you don't have or overcame those problems. Seriously. I'm glad whatever you did worked well for you.
I'm not you.
And the sanctimonious asshat who just commented on the slice of pizza on my tray (seriously) isn't encouraging me to lose weight. They're causing my cortisol levels to spike, which short circuits the weight loss program I started back on today.
Again, though, I'm not just bitching. If I start to be that person, if I start trolling with my unwanted concern, point me back here and tell me to shut up.
Because along with losing weight and staying clear of tobacco, I want to be more compassionate. And definitely not some sanctimonious jerk judging others by what's on their food tray.